Trauma Related Grief

Trauma therapy is difficult and complex. Generally, trauma therapy takes place in 3 stages—stabilization and resourcing, memory work, and grief work coupled with the practice of new behaviors. Each stage likely involves multiple interventions and approaches. It is not fast work. When I talk to people about trauma work, they often have some awareness of … Continue reading Trauma Related Grief

The Benefit of Shame

Shame is the feeling or belief that we are somehow flawed and unworthy of love and belonging. If we are capable of connection and empathy, we are vulnerable to shame. It is a common human experience. Unlike guilt, which is the conviction that I did something bad, shame is the feeling that I am bad. … Continue reading The Benefit of Shame

Self Worth as Stewardship

Self-care is stewardship of the gifts (internal and external) we have been given. When I am a good steward of myself, I am less likely to burn-out or experience resentment. Photo by Pixabay on Pexels.com I work with hurting people. A common goal in my counseling practice is to increase self-worth. This is understandable as … Continue reading Self Worth as Stewardship

The Truth about Coping

We live in a fast-paced and often high stress culture. At times we are drawn to the “next big thing” and continually look toward the future or analyze the past. In our competitive culture there are two paths to choose in response to stress: decrease stress by changing factors we can control or manage stress … Continue reading The Truth about Coping

What I want my clients to know

I consider myself blessed beyond what I deserve. I get to do a job that I genuinely love. Many people find counseling mysterious and confusing. Unless you’ve been through the process it is hard to know what to expect. When working with clients—whether it is deep brain work, psychoeducation, or just discussing the process of … Continue reading What I want my clients to know