In my most recent post I delved into the some of the ways a trauma survivor might interact with the others that could potentially set the stage for relationship troubles. This post was a simplification of the complexities and frustration experienced on both sides of the relationship. I want to take time now to explain … Continue reading The Dreaded Drama Triangle
We have all heard the term “playing the victim”. I hate this phrase, and I have been guilty of using it a time or two. We use this term to describe someone who in our mind chooses to be victimized or otherwise places blame on others. Someone who avoids taking responsibility. At times it suggests … Continue reading The truth about playing the victim
Vulnerability. I am bad at it. As a recovering perfectionist, I seek to embrace my vulnerability rather than reject it (or at the very least I try). I have learned in my personal and professional life that vulnerability breeds authenticity, creativity, and growth. But make no mistake--this is not easy. Being a Licensed Professional Counselor … Continue reading The times I was a completely imperfect counselor.
Boundaries are a common topic in the realm of mental heatlh. This is because boundaries matter. They are integral to attachment—how we give and receive care. They are integral to safety and the way we care for ourselves. Brene Brown describes boundaries in simple terms, “what is okay and what is not okay”. Boundaries and … Continue reading The Complicated Nature of Boundaries